Is communication in your
business, career, and/or
life in general working for
you or against you -
or is it just stuck in limbo?
If it's not presently an
all-around win-win for
you right now ...
it could be ... going forward.
CONFLICT IN COMMUNCIATION
There can be conflict in any type of relationship (and resolve as well in most), whether it be love relationship, family relationship, friends, supervisors, co-workers, and/or strangers.
While CONFLICT regarding a differnce of opinion is prevalent in our culture, it is harmful to our interations.
It means one is not taking into account the other person, and that one is either not listening or caring to understand their experience and why they feel they way they do. It is a non-acceptance of others (and perhaps one's self as well, as that is where it starts when we hold our ground so intensely and need to be right).
Regardless of where you are in your life, your best choice in your communication approach can make all the difference in your outcomes. If you are managing employees, the buy-in you get and the confidence your employees will have in you are determined by how you communicate and what you resonate. If you are an employee, it works in the reverse that what you resonate will most of the time determine what you get back. In personal relationships, the same thing applies.
Often we approach people with opinions and communication knowing what we want to get, what we want to happen, it is about "me." It is when we bring the other person(s) into our interaction, and bring ourself into their interacction, that we have the option of sharing great communication, even in our differences.
Learning to understand one's self, then others -- and appreciate one's self and appreciate others, regardless of a difference in opinion -- creates not only a huge leap to forward movement, but creates also unexpected opportunities in business and life in general, including opportunities for your best outcome and self-satisfaction. In addition, it allows one to touch other people's lives that make a difference to them, and can fill your heart as well. It is very fulfilling to all involved.
TONE OF VOICE IN COMMUNICATION
One's TONE OF VOICE, on the other hand, is a reflection of something deeper occurring in the speaker.
One's tone of voice resonates outwardly, others feel it, and then frequently react more to the person's tone than to what the person is saying. Think about the last time you had a conversation with someone and their reaction to what you were saying had nothing to do with the item you were speaking about. Could it have been your tone?
One's TONE OF VOICE could also be due to unresolved issues within the speaker towards the person they are interacting with, even at times regarding things they are not consciously aware. In coaching individuals regarding their long time marriages, they sometimes hold onto things they don't know how to approach in order to keep peace and to keep within the framework of their marriage partnership. They have locked it away (metaphorially) in an untouched room and have forgotten it, yet it comes out in their tone.
The same thing goes for any type of interaction and the TONE OF VOICE used. When one has had things occur in their work relationships, family relationships, friendships, TONE OF VOICE can become a something that stands between you and the other person(s) and can get you stuck or hold you back from finding your best outcome(s), and your peace of mind. The person on the other end of it will perhaps have their own return TONE OF VOICEAnd so the conflict remains and continues.
There are other several ways of approaching your interactions, without doing harm to your relationship, or keeping you stuck in the process of communication you have learned.
Learning Emotional Intelligence is incredibly beneficial in progressing your business and your life. It is the difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. The difference beween EXPECTATION and APPRECIATION.
In Emotional Intelligence, we recognize and manage emotions by digesting what is occurring, and selecting our best way to respond to any given situation. It creates that win-win we all hope for. It could mean the difference in resonating and attracting what you want, showing up the way you want, and achieving what you want, along with your self-satisfaction. It can alter your reputation to the better, attract new business, new friends, new love, and a fulfilling life.
I have coached people high up in their industry, very accomplished, very intelligent, who were communicating in a way that was harming their business or their career. They were taking a big hit from it and not realizing they could turn it around ... until they started coaching and they did turn it around.
The same thing occurs with interaction and the TONE OF VOICE in love relationships, family relationships, friendships, TONE OF VOICE can become a something that stands between you and the other person(s) and can get you stuck or hold you back to finding your peace of mind and your best outcome. The person on the other end of it will perhaps have their own return tone of voice. And so the conflict remains, and continues -- i.e. the big divide, refraining in one's love partner, family members, and friends -- and one may not know there are options in how you can approach your communication.
Self exploration and your possibilities and various other ways to approach your communication, including how you feel, what you are resonating, what you would like to attract, and the outcome(s) you would like to achieve -- are all things that can be accomplished. You can do this on your own, of course.
Or you could do this with an experienced Life Coach / Business Coaching / Higher Self Coach - without requiring several years that it may take an individual on their own.
My second certification is in this very area of communication.
If you feel communication is not flowing as smoothly as it could in business, career, love, family, or friends, this may be a great area for you to explore.
To see how this might work for you and your possibilities, feel free to contact me below.
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Corri Milner, CPC, MP-ELI