- re what you want to do or not do,
- to accept what you think and feel,
- to feel good about what you’re inclined to do or not do,
putting yourself in the way of others judging you,
and most of all – your internal self is judging you,
causing you to feel doubt,
needing others to validate what you feel, need, want.
Did you know this is a common experience with people?
I've seen this in leaders frequently in my 2,000 hours of coaching.
Needing permission from others means there is some inner conflict,
or an internal voice from the past that is not aligned with who you really are now.
See if you can capture this conflict by writing in a journal. See if you can work with all sides of yourself, so that you can find self-acceptance, validation, and acknowledge who you are and what you want is not only okay but is great.
If you seek validation and acknowledgment from others, make sure that you are okay with whatever you hear and it will not cause you to change direction on what you need and want. If it could influence you to go off course, then perhaps consider who you will bring into that space with you, perhaps someone who will not judge or push their own agenda, but will help promote you in who you really are.
This can help move you forward.
Your feelings and what occurs in your body can also guide you to what you want, in what calls to you, and also what is working against you. Sometimes what's in our head can get in our way. Our body can tell us a lot.
No one else can tell you what is right for you. You can learn to master your outcomes and be the leader of your life and your business.
Did you know that most people have this conflict going on inside and cannot give themselves permission? In coaching, I’ve seen this in attorneys, military intelligence leaders, banking vice presidents, senior directors ... so if you are experiencing this, don’t beat yourself up, you’re in good company.
Just know there is much you can do about it.
Love The Business & Life You’re In! (◠‿◠) Corri Coaching
Certified Professional Coach
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